Parents of the Year
We were never given a manual on how to parent. It is easy to get overwhelmed to know the right thing to do. There is so much contradictory information out there and everyone has their own advice. Parenting is a rewarding but messy, confusing, infuriating, guilt-inducing, and overwhelming journey. While it's easy to get lost, Andrew Stewart, a real dad, and Dr. Caroline Buzanko, a real mom, child psychologist, and parenting expert (who also happens to be married to Andrew) will help you get back on track. In each episode, Andrew and Caroline have open and honest chats about everything parenting. Join them in honesty, laughter, and tears (Caroline is a bit of a cry baby) as they help you navigate this journey of parenting. And, every so often, you may get some gems of expert advice. Our goal is to make your parenting journey less stressful, more forgiving, and more awesome. Please join us every Wednesday for new episodes of Parenting of the Year.
Parents of the Year
219. Why kids ignore rules even when they understand them?
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Respect doesn't suddenly appear during the teenage years. Responsibility, honesty, gratitude, and consideration for others are skills children learn through repeated teaching, consistent expectations, and everyday family interactions.
In this episode of Parents of the Year, Andrew and Dr. Caroline explore why many families struggle with disrespect, constant negotiations, and boundary battles. They explain why discipline should be viewed as teaching rather than punishment and why calm, confident leadership creates far better results than power struggles.
You'll hear practical examples of setting limits around chores, honesty, screen time, family responsibilities, and respectful communication while staying connected to your child. They also discuss why children need explicit instruction instead of assuming they already know what respectful behaviour looks like.
If you're tired of repeating yourself, negotiating every request, or wondering why consequences don't seem to work, this episode offers practical strategies that help children build responsibility while strengthening family relationships.
Homework for Families
This week's challenge isn't about adding more rules.
It's about becoming more intentional with the rules you already have.
1. Choose Three Family Expectations
Instead of correcting everything, identify the three behaviours that matter most in your home.
Examples:
- We speak respectfully.
- We tell the truth.
- We clean up our own mess.
Write them somewhere everyone can see.
2. Replace "Don't..." With "Do..."
Notice how often instructions begin with:
- Don't yell.
- Don't hit.
- Don't leave your shoes there.
Replace them with clear instruction.
Examples:
- Use respectful words.
- Keep your hands to yourself.
- Put your shoes in the basket.
Children learn faster when they know exactly what success looks like.
3. Decide Your Follow Through Before the Problem Happens
Ask yourself:
"If my child doesn't follow this expectation, what will I calmly do?"
Notice the question isn't:
"What will I make my child do?"
It's:
"What action will I consistently take?"
4. Catch Helpful Behaviour
This week, intentionally notice one helpful behaviour each day.
Examples:
"Thanks for putting your dishes away."
"I noticed you told me the truth."
"I appreciated how calmly you handled that."
Positive reinforcement helps repeat behaviours you want to see again.
5. Model Repair
If you lose your patience this week:
Own it.
Apologise.
Explain what you'll do differently next time.
Children learn as much from watching adults repair mistakes as they do from watching adults succeed.
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