Parents of the Year

214. Why don’t kids respect parents the way they used to?

Caroline & Andrew Season 6 Episode 214

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Are Parents Losing Authority? Why Respect at Home Is Breaking Down

Why are so many parents feeling ignored, dismissed, or completely powerless with their kids?

In this episode of Parents of the Year, Andrew and Dr. Caroline tackle the growing culture of disrespect happening at home, at school, online, and across society. From kindergarten graduation fights between parents to teens brushing off rules without a second thought, they unpack what changed and what families can do about it.

This conversation digs into gentle parenting gone too far, the pressure parents face from social media, and why so many adults are scared to set firm boundaries. Andrew and Caroline share personal stories about raising teens, handling screen time, teaching respect, building family culture, and helping kids care about the opinions of the people who love them most.

They also talk about:

  • Why consequences matter
  • How over-negotiating weakens authority
  • The difference between compassion and permissiveness
  • Why kids still need non-negotiables
  • How TV, social media, and peers shape behaviour
  • Teaching respect through everyday moments
  • Why kids secretly want boundaries, even when they push back

This episode is honest, funny, uncomfortable at times, and packed with practical parenting conversations every family should be having right now.

If you’ve ever thought:
“Why doesn’t my child listen anymore?”
or
“Why does everything turn into a battle?”

this episode is for you.


Homework Activities for Parents

1. Create One Non-Negotiable Rule

Pick one household issue causing daily friction:

  • phones at bedtime
  • rude language
  • chores
  • dinner routines

Write:

  • the rule
  • why it matters
  • the consequence if ignored

Keep it simple and consistent for one full week.

Resource Needed:

  • Whiteboard, sticky note, or printed family rule sheet

2. Practice “Broken Record Parenting”

When your child argues:

  • stay calm
  • repeat the rule
  • avoid long explanations

Example:
 “The phone stays downstairs at night.”
 Repeat calmly instead of debating.

Resource Needed:

  • A written script parents can rehearse beforehand

3. Family Contribution Audit

Ask:
 “What does it take to make this house run every week?”

Make a list together:

  • laundry
  • dishes
  • pet care
  • rides
  • groceries

Assign one meaningful responsibility to each child.

Resource Needed:

  • Family task chart

4. Teach Respect Through Real-Life Practice

Use real moments:

  • ordering food
  • speaking to cashiers
  • apologizing
  • handling frustration

Coach kids before and after interactions.

Resource Needed:

  • Conversation prompts:
    • “How could we say that more respectfully?”
    • “What would repair look like here?”

5. Schedule One “Just for Fun” Parent-Child Activity

No lectures.
 No corrections.
 No teaching moment.

Play cards, go for ice cream, garden, drive somewhere together, watch a movie, shoot hoops — whatever fits your family.

The goal:
 Connection without pressure.

Resource Needed:

  • 30 minutes of uninterrupted time




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